Let's do a little thought experiment.
Imagine I gave you a telephone number and said it was a direct phone
line to
the Creative Principle of the universe.
That is, if you call this number and make your request known then <<FLASH>>
whatever your request is, it happens here in your reality.
And let's say it's a toll-free number, just to remove ANY obstacle. :-)
And it's a voicemail, so you can call at any time of night without concern
for
waking anyone up. So now there is REALLY no obstacle.
Or is there?
Do you know what request would you make?
(Don't tell me the answer, but DO tell yourself the answer. Outloud,
even if
you are only whispering.)
And one more aspect to this: It's for something in YOUR personal world.
So...a car, a new relationship, extra food donations at the charity center
where you volunteer, a mill'ion in c'ash, a mansion in Spain, an apartment
in New York City, a cure for some medical challenge you are facing.
What would YOU ask for?
Now, here's the BIG question, and it's important.
What would STOP you from picking up the phone and making the request?
The reflex answer to the first question is, "Well, I'd ask for __________,
in a
heartbeat."
But go beyond the reflex, close your eyes and imagine the steps.
You pick up the phone, dial it and say the thing you want to have happen
now
in your world.
Let's add just ONE more piece to this thought experiment...
You have just sixty seconds from NOW to pick up the phone and make this
call,
or you can never make the call again.
Aware of any internal obstacle to MAKING the request?
Are you sure what request you would make?
I recommend writing both of these down: What you would request, and what
(internally)
would stop you from making the request.
(Did you write them down? Good.)
Okay, so what would stop you?
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Could it be...FEAR?
Fear of having, fear of not having, fear of asking too much, fear of
asking
too little. Fear of loss. Fear of gain.
Fear that you're "not supposed" to have something. Fear that
it's "too late"
for you. Fear that you'll "get in trouble."
Fear fear fear fear fear.
Sometimes all you have to do is THINK about, say, m'oney pressure, and
FFFRRRRRRRPP your
body gets a shot of adrenaline, your skin gets cold and you feel your
heart thumping
in your chest.
Isn't that a weird reaction?
All because of a little bundle of cells in your head?
That "bundle" is your limbic brain and it's not the smart part
of your brain that reads the paper and does
sudoku puzzles.
Your limbic brain handles the animal stuff, the four F's -- Fighting,
Fleeing, Foraging
and of course Procreation. : )
But when you are under financial stress, you actually don't need the
adrenaline and surge of
energy. You don't need the blood to stop flowing to your extremeties and
your higher
brain functions to shut off.
You don't NEED to fight off an animal; you NEED to wake up your creativity.
Then again...
I was working on a tv commercial some years ago, and we were filming
here at the very
large Miami MetroZoo.
So at 530am the whole production -- trucks and cars and cameramen and
everybody, was in
the dark empty parking lot just outside the zoo.
It was before sunrise, PLUS there was fog, so it was black as night.
Then we all heard it.
A Lion roared.
Now, maybe you've been in a jungle, but I haven't. I'm a city-boy through
and
through.
All I noticed was how being in blackness, hearing a roar like that nearby,
wakes up
something DEEP inside your head.
Better than coffee.
Good Lord that was loud.
Yes, you consciously know there is a fence between you and Mr. Lion,
but another part
of your brain knows nothing about fences.
All that part of your brain knows is that something big and hungry is
nearby, and it
sounds like it has teeth. And you are in an open area and you can't see
that far.
Now, having that response to a roaring animal makes perfect sense.
What makes NO sense is to have this reaction -- anxiety fear panic --
when the problem
has to do with money.
A shot of adrenaline, your eyes open a little wider, your muscles are
stronger, there's a
spring in your step.
You become essentially a scared animal.
Scared animals are lousy at making money.
On the other hand, creative humans FILL the entire list of the Forbes
400 wealthiest
people on earth.
Some people talk about going from "fear to power"
I think a better approach is to go from fear to creativity.
Wake up MORE of your brain and use that extra brainpower to help solve the problem.
How do you do that?
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You use a little technique called (this is a mouthful) "Frontal Occipital Holding"
That middle word is pronounced ock-SIP-it-uhl, by the way.
I learned it from kinesiology teacher Paul Burdelsky about 14 years ago.
It's a process that will literally move blood from the stem/limbic
portion of your brain OUT to the higher executive thinking part of
your brain (the top of your forehead) as well as to the back of your
head where your visual cortex is.
That way you can think with more intelligence and creativity,
AND you can see more attractive options for yourself.
One metaphor I used to tell clients: Your brain is like
a 20-story library building of the best books in the world.
Fiction, nonfiction, how-to, you name it.
But when fear turns on, all the lights turn off -- except the section
where the horror novels are!
Doing Frontal Occpital holding is like turning on all the lights
so you can access the REST of your immense library of
information and strategies. Not just the horror novels.
By the way, there are LOADS of other helpful techniques in my book...
Good
Money: The Energy Flow Advantage
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This technique is REALLY simple. I asked my wife Clare
to take a quick picture so you can see how simple it is
( and how photogenic I am).
Do not adjust
your set. This IS a black and white photo.
Steps...
Think of anything that bothers you WHILE you...
1. Put one hand on the front of your head, over your hairline.
(If you are hairless, put your hand where your hairline would
be if you had a full head of hair, the front top portion of your
head. Especially important is the top of your forehead.)
2. Put the other hand on the lower back portion of your head
Tips:
Either hand works in either place on your head. Left in back, right in
front, or vice versa. It doesn't matter.
While you are doing this process, move your eyes around while
keeping your head still. Imagine your eyes are painting a far wall in
front of you. Move them to all areas and corners and everyplace
in between. Especially out to the corners of your field of vision.
Some of those places you put your eyes will have more of a "charge."
Keep breathing, and keep holding.
How to know when you are done...
If you feel a pulse in your hand on your forehead
and/or if you have no unwanted feelings in your body.
By the way, this process MAY lead to creative disgust: The feeling of
"Dammit I am going to do something now about this stupid
________."
That's fine and productive, and an improvement over beating
yourself up, but stay through that feeling all the way to resolution if
you can.
Until you feel a pulse and/or have no unwanted feelings.
So...
Go ahead and put your hands on your head, and then think
about anything mildly stressful about money.
Think of the SPECIFIC thing that is a worry or upset.
Again, keeping holding and breathing (very important) until
you feel a pulse in your hand and/or relief.
Especially notice creative ideas that show up in mind to resolve
whatever challenge came to mind.